There are so many Do’s and Don’t on what not to say to girls with big curly hair! I know sometimes you don’t even know these certain things are corny or offensive but it’s time to nip them in the butt RIGHT NOW!
- “You have nappy hair”
Nappy is NOT an adjective to describe anybody’s hair. Nobody has nappy hair. I know sometimes people mean curly or frizzy but, there are so many different hair types that we could refer the tighter curls to kinky curls or 4c hair. I just really cannot stand that word, it’s derogatory to me. It gives me PTSD because when I was a freshman in high school I had my hair out and curly and it was HUGE! Like tina turners hair and he called me “nappy head” and ever since then I’ve despised that term.
2.Don’t touch my hair without asking!
I hope most of you have learned this or heard about this rule. It seriously is like the #1 rule that we enforce. Please ask before touching our hair! For me, the reason why I don’t like it is that some people’s instinct is to run their fingers through but, that will frizz up our hair and make the curls look more like waves. It’s just so annoying as well like please make sure it’s okay!
3. Don’t ask loudly “Is that your real hair?”
Some girls embrace it, some girls rather you not ask at all. I hate that question mainly in public it’s just like dang, is that really what you first think of me when you see me?; Especially a stranger it’s like WTF! Honestly, why does it matter! I know I look good girl!! Just be mindful of your surroundings when you ask personal questions.
4. “I like your hair better straight”
Do you understand how much confidence it took for me to like when my hair was natural? Everyone used to say it’s beautiful and “People will pay for your hair!” but, I never believed them because at school girls would make fun of me and pull my hair. I know it might not sound insulting and it’s your preference and I understand that. It’s just that comments like that are better off unsaid.
5. *While someone is wearing a natural style (wigs, braids e.t.c.)* “I like your real hair better”
It is SO annoying hearing that YOU like my hair better natural. I didn’t do this for you. I changed my hair because it’s healthy for my hair and I like it. I love switching up styles and that’s something special for you to enjoy. I love wearing braids and wigs because it protects my hair from getting dry and it can grow faster as well.
If you have said any of these things don’t feel bad about it because it happens sometimes you don’t know so just think about what you say for now on! Let me know if you have any questions.
Be Confident In Your Natural Curl! 